I have decided to follow Jesus and that means obeying all His commandments, not picking and choosing which to follow. This includes staying clear from fornication. Knowing that my decision will one day affect my future marriage, my husband hurts me to the core. Having to explain to my children that, “Mommy didn’t wait till marriage but you should” is a thought I am not looking to make a reality. That decision, that choice, those 3 minutes 28 seconds, will change your life, they go beyond temporary and become a permanent. Although God who is Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end, will forgive that very sin the thought about how that decision will have an affect on the things and people that will one day be important to you should put the fear of God in you. If you find yourself in a compromising situation I urge you to ask, “is it really worth it?”
You also have to ask yourself if sex outside of marriage is worth dishonoring God. Just because you may not end up with an unwanted pregnancy or contract a STI does not mean you’re out of the clear. These contraceptives were never created to honour God but find a way around His commandment. He created this great gift for the confines of marriage, between a man and a woman. If we find ourselves indulging in premarital sex we are turning sex into something corrupted and idolized by a society who wants nothing to do with God. So yes a guy wearing a condom or a girl on birth control may get rid of the risks of unwanted pregnancy but it doesn’t shield or protect one from the wrath of God, something that is to be feared or the soul ties that come with the package. Sex was made for many reasons; two of the main reasons those who participate in premature sex fail to recognize is its purpose of creating offspring and binding man and woman. These two things are avoided through contraceptive uses, devaluing the process of sex itself. There are married couples all over the world that cannot get pregnant for various reasons and there are so many wasting the opportunity because they aren’t ready for a child but ready for the child-making process. Self-control is free! Condoms and birth controls come at a price, I mean that literally and figuratively. We can save a ton of money and honor God by adhering to His Word.
In the name of “love” some go and yoke themselves with someone whose foundation isn’t Christ and become less sensitive to sin and conviction but still some may say “it’s just sex.” Sex is seen as a commonality. BUT, not everyone is doing it. If you happen to fall by the wayside and indulge it’s not over for you!! I feel many of us need that reminder when we are close to the shore, ready to drown in sorrow. Many of us come from a strong Christian background so I urge you to remember what James 4:17 says, “Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.” I know it’s hard, but it’s possible! It’s never too late to get things in order, to revert, to make a new way. You may limp away but you’ll never be the same. Choose to have a new heart today, new heart new life. Knowing God means we should be compelled to flee from sin, and run to Him should we sin, not run from Him.
After all, the best sex is married sex. No lying behind anyone’s back, no sneaking around. Sex is and forever should be an extension of communication in marriage. When there are chances that condoms or birth controls fail self-control is 100% effective. Self-control and obedience to God’s Word protects and prevents soul ties, condoms and birth controls do not. Count the cost I’m sure Samson and David wish they did. You’ll find the good in sex within marriage outnumbers sex outside.
When Samson fell for Delilah it marked the beginning of his downfall and eventual demise. Because Samson is just like you and me when we give ourselves over to sin. In this state, we can easily be deceived because the truth becomes impossible to see. But in spite of his failures and sins of great consequences, Samson’s heart now turned to the Lord. He was humbled. He prayed to God and God answered. Saints, it isn’t too late for us. As Paul put it in Ecclesiastes 1:9 “The thing that hath been, it is that which shall be; and that which is done is that which shall be done: and there is no new thing under the sun.”
Take David now as an example. David was a man after God’s own heart yet he committed this very sin of fornication. Nothing new under the sun! He rose and came out of this sin, so can we. We can find our way back to the heart of worship. After he became king of Israel, David was engaged in almost constant warfare to defend the kingdom. King David was a great military conqueror, but he could not conquer himself. He allowed one night of lust with Bathsheba and it has disastrous consequences in his life. Despite finding his way back to the heart of worship and being forgiven, punishment took place. I’m not saying we will walk away from sin scot-free but get out before it gets worse.
What we can take up from these two men of God is that God always offers forgiveness for our sins, but we cannot escape the consequences.